A long time ago I had a friend that wounded me constantly. Not major wounds, but little verbal jabs here and there coming from his bank of insecurities. I continued to be in his life because I knew of some existing problems and I wanted to extend compassion. I felt convicted to BE a change agent in this person’s life; that would certainly require me to lay down my rights and take some hits.
There came a time however, where I was flesh-weary. I had gotten to the point where I was ready to write him off. I prayed in my bathroom full of anger one morning, “Lord, I cannot stand him and I never want to be around him ever again!” As soon as I prayed that I felt a noticeable shift in my spirit, or maybe the Holy Spirit rose up within me and my thoughts changed. “Lord, what about me? What have I done?”
No sooner did I speak those words, than the Lord spoke to me, “Never lose that attitude Julie.”
I am so thankful I was taught that lesson. Without it I would not purposefully seek out my blind spots. Without it I would trash relationships and I would trash people. Most importantly, even if I was able to fool myself and others, I would not be fooling God.
We all have those blind spots that make us point the finger at another and refuse to think that WE could be at fault or at partial fault. We have those spots and situations in life where we justify our sin because of the initial act of another person. But we are not justified. We are accountable for our REACTIONS, just as much as they are accountable for their initial sinful action.
“When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, your lives will produce these evil results: the feeling that everyone is wrong except those in your own little group” Galatians 5:19
For the whole law can be summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another.